Friday, April 3, 2009
Reading Austin's penultimate post on his flirty behavior and consequent dropping of MY trademarked (fuck YOU Sex and the City!) boyfriend bomb got me thinking about flirting in general.
My most recent ex once told me that he was a flirtatious guy. This got me jealous. Until, of course, I saw what he meant by being "flirtatious" - which essentially included speaking to men and being nice to them. To him this was flirting. To me it was speaking to men and being nice to them.
You see, Austin, it appears that people have different definitions of what flirting actually is. I, for example, can be a HUGE flirt. But when I say flirt, I mean something rather serious. To me, flirting is as much a precursor to sleeping with someone as eating bad fish is a precursor to vomiting. If you do the first one correctly, the conclusion should promptly follow.
Between things I say and the things I do, when I put my game face on and set to flirting, I have a set goal - sleep with the recipient of my flirting.
My flirting is far from innocent. It starts with smiling and jokes, but I step it up rather quickly. I stand closer to the guy I'm talking to. I put my hand on their arm when telling a joke or asking a question. That hand then holds on a bit longer as the night goes on. I lock eyes with them and smirk if able.
Needless to say, when I am in a committed relationship, I don't flirt. Because, as you can see, my definition of flirting is a hardcore, goal-oriented process. Not just some batting eyes and titters.
It makes me wonder: what do other people consider flirting?
And if you don't know how to flirt, you can always take tips from these girls: