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A common question that I've encountered on social networking sites is the small talk filler "What kind of guys are you into?" To this question, I never have an answer. Truth is, I really don't have a "type". It's more of a gut feeling than anything else and I think some can relate. I've encountered some guys that are completely baffled as to why I've turned them down, claiming they know how hot they are and model all the time. Reality check, aisle 3.
There is a reason I bring this up besides letting readers know more about how awesome I am. Despite the fact that I don't have a particular type, that does not mean I don't look for certain physical features in a guy. We can base physical beauty empirically using the golden ratio, or have just been conditioned to look for certain features; high cheekbones, strong jaw line, etc. I personally like guys that have darker features (eyes, hair). That being said, I realized something that took me by surprise for someone who loves sex so much.
I have never had sex with a black man.
My first logical thoughts were naturally "Oh shit! I'm racist!" and then quickly dismissed that idea when I thought of all my black friends. And then was brought back to start when I realized I have no black friends. I started thinking; do I treat people of other ethnicities differently? No... I feel strongly against (seriously) stereotyping people. Sure, I make jokes but I do that across all ethnicities including my own. Come on, a Middle Eastern chemist with applications to an arsenal company and a copy of The Anarchist's Cookbook in his car with Weeds and Breaking Bad on his Netflix queue? How have I NOT been arrested and interrogated yet is unfathomable.
You go, Homeland Security.
I bring this up because on all social networking sites, you are bound to come across a profile that says "no blacks, no Asians, no jerseyans" etc. This of course, sounds racist. The way they phrase it IS racist. But is the person really racist? Probably not.
I grew up in a small town in Jersey, primarily Caucasian, and few Asians here and there with a twist of Latino. There was one black kid in my High School. I based physical attraction growing up on what I saw, which happened to be a pot of milk with some little speckles in it.
I developed attraction to what I saw in these mostly white guys; proportions, cheek bones, jaw line, eye placement. Physical features like these are genetic. Your race is part of your genetics. So consequently, there is not a huge difference in the bare bones meaning between saying "I'm not attracted to that guy" and "I am not attracted to black men." It just sounds horribly racist because saying you are not attracted to black men makes it sound like everything is based on skin color. Just like how skin color is passed through genetics, so are the facial features previously mentioned. If you are not attracted to features shared among a certain community, it does not make you racist. So stop being a fucking dick and calling a person racist if you get turned down. I have had plenty of guys say they're only into Latino/blacks/Asians. You know what I say? "Ok, good luck man."
So why have I never tasted chocolate? Opportunity I guess. There are some black men that I find extremely handsome but have failed getting with them. For the majority of instances I find myself not attracted to most black men unfortunately. Also, don't get all in a tizzy if I used "black" where I should have used "African American" or "colored". You know what I fucking mean; don't force political correctness bullshit on me. I'd rather shit in my hand and clap.
I will never touch a ginger, though. They freak me out too much. I'm sorry Justin Luke/Justin Luke's BF.
Get a tan!!
-Stokes Out
Interesting read! I agree and don't think it's necessarily racism, but I do think it's a form of some sort of prejudice that has been created by our society and what the "norm" of beauty is considered to be. Like you mentioned you grew up mostly around people who were White so I guess naturally that's what you would be attracted to. I think environment definitely plays a role in it and it's up to us to change the perception of what beauty is whether that's through advertising, media, etc. so that people are able to be more open minded in terms of their attraction and sexuality.
ReplyDeleteIt depends. You can't really control what gets your dick hard -- I mean, if you could, then the "Pray the Gay Away" people would actually have a point! If you've just never been sexually aroused by black guys -- or short guys, or fat guys, or Jewish guys, or blonde guys -- it doesn't make you racist. It just means your penis is limiting your romantic options.
ReplyDeleteI mean, are you sexist for not wanting to bone women? No.
But if you're avoiding -- or pre-emptively rejecting -- guys of a particular sort because you believe something about them makes them undesirable, THAT is racism. Just not turned on? Fine. Just not gonna do it because they're "dirty", "lazy", "too well-hung"? Not fine.
Saying "no blacks", "no asians", etc... well, that's just tacky and incredibly rude. Sure, it may be true, if all you're looking for is someone to bone... but if you say you're "Looking for: friends" AND say "no blacks"... well then, you're a fucktard MY lilly-white ass ain't gonna waste a minute of time on!